Why Not

Why Not Balance the Masculine & Feminine

Watching all the #metoo on social media makes me deeply saddened and also relieved. I am grateful that the veils are lifting and everything is being seen now. As a woman, I want to be able to be female and not feel like I need to be close my heart, neuter my sensuality or view men as predators. I want to create new dialogues that pull men and women together; I‘m starting by asking myself, my clients, my friends and millenials these questions:
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Why Not…Surrender and Make Change Your Ally

Much of my work focuses around supporting people and organizations optimize change/get out of their comfort zone.  I’ve been doing this for myself since my childhood, something I resented for a long time. Until I realized that, like so many childhood lessons, they provide the greatest opportunity for growth. Early on it made sense to stop using the power of my will to fight with life, and instead use it to engage in the reality that was there right in front of me. As presently as possible, moment by moment by moment. And, to try to use the challenge as a door to something greater – a lesson, an opportunity, a promotion, even falling in love.

Perhaps there is an indescribable perfection to life itself, some greater reorganizing principle at work if we would only mindshift and be able to view it this way.

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Why Not Accept… It’s Just Information

Life is a school and a constant feedback loop. It’s talking to us moment by moment through our experiences and interactions with each other and our environment.
We all have, and have had, dreams, expectations and goals, personally and professionally, with clear intentions and paths to make them happen. Our individual life experiences are personal to us, and yet we all know how it feels when life can switch in a moment. I’ve experienced the financial ramifications of my biggest client getting their funding cut, just when I was achieving my own level of financial stability. I’ve had a coup de foudre (hit by lightning/love at first sight) only to have the other person tell me even though they feel everything I do, they “can’t do it.” I’ve watched clients hire people I knew were not right for the position, and then having the client need me to work with them to help clean up the fall out that rippled through their organization (clients, board members, investors).

 

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Why Not learn to forgive more? Why Not reduce judgment?

A deeply pivotal moment in my life happened some years ago when an entrepreneur friend asked me to meet his top Colombian advisor in Baranquilla. After a few minutes of being deeply engaged in conversation, she looked me right in the eye and said, “you are good at forgiving. Now you must learn not to judge.” Her words were an energetic hammer. I knew that there was so much truth in what she said. My mind felt like a Rubik’s Cube, trying to just stay open and listen. And then integrate what I had heard and put it together in a meaningful and practical way.

 

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Why not be like water?

Of all the elements in nature, water provides the strongest metaphor for me. Water is a reminder to not be afraid to pivot, and that things can change shape in an instant. Water reminds me that there is always a way to reach one’s goals and often multiple pathways to getting there. Water always finds the opening. And maybe more intention to those goals, and less attachment to a specific way to achieve them is a better way to go. For me, it’s often allowing for a mindshift to greater levels of adaptability that opens opportunities ~ sometimes out of nowhere. Water teaches me many things…

 

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